Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Faith, Believe and Hope

With thanks to Soraya Silvestri for providing the inspiration. 
I took a photo of these stones during the Spring Choir Party at Soraya's house last May. 

We look ahead as a new year starts
Believing deep within our hearts,
That the world is a good, despite its sorrow
We must believe in a better tomorrow,

We must have faith and we must have hope
It’s really the only way to cope,
Believe that good will overcome bad
Believe that happy will overcome sad,

Out with the old year and in with the new
A Very Happy New Year to all of you!

Monday, December 29, 2014

Needing Solitude

I remember as a kid that I enjoyed getting up early on Saturday mornings to read or draw before the family woke up. It was a magical quiet time to enjoy being with my own thoughts and imagination before the day really began.

Our society often seems to view being solitary as a negative thing. As children, we’re encouraged to join in with the group and get along with others. If we are a loner, we are seen as a misfit who needs help.

After the busyness of Christmas with its focus on socializing with other people, I long for some solitary time. It’s not that I don’t enjoy people, but as an introvert, I find being with groups of people very tiring.

I enjoy my solitude and crave downtime to recharge, reflect and tap into my creativity. I am a morning person and still enjoy that magical alone time when everyone else is asleep. It is so rejuvenating and soul nurturing.

As Thoreau’s quote states, it can sometimes be even lonelier being with people than being alone. These days in our increasingly impersonal disconnected world, it’s easy to feel “lost in the crowd” which can be a lonelier feeling than being alone.

Solitude is the time I reconnect with myself and I need it to feel healthy and whole. It’s when I write and am most creative. Without it, I feel cranky, stressed and as if I’m only enduring and not really living.

Seeking Solitude
by Cathy Graham

Comfortable in my solitude, I slip into the zone
I seek out “me” time and love to be alone,
A quiet time to reflect and ponder
Time to create and time to wonder,

I am rarely lonely and feel lonelier in a crowd
Crowd noise overwhelms me, it’s way too loud!
When I don’t get my solitude, I’m like an old crone
I make it a priority to spend time alone.

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Am I Really 55 Years Old Already!

This week I had to put our red Siberian Tanner to sleep as he was 16 and could barely walk or see. His quality of life had diminished so much this past year that I knew prolonging his life was only prolonging his suffering.

I’ve had to put four animals down in the past four years, one for each year. You’d think I’d get hardened to it but I still find it just as difficult each time and cry over each one.

There is nothing like having a pet with their brief life spans to appreciate time passing.

And there's nothing like another birthday to make you stop and reflect on life so far. Reaching 55 years old today is hard for me to fathom. I still feel like a little girl deep down, even if I get a rude shock when I look in the mirror. Who is that old plump lady with the wrinkles around her eyes and the grey in her hair? Do I know that person?

Stores are offering me seniors' discounts and retirement magazine samples are arriving in the mail. If that's not proof of my advanced age, what is?

Somehow being in your fifties gives you such a different perspective than when you’re younger. All of a sudden, you realize just how short life really is and how time shouldn’t be wasted. Things you thought were important just aren’t anymore.

I don’t care so much about what others think of me as I used to. I have grown to love and accept myself more, flaws and all. That’s not to say that I don’t get hurt. I still do but I can let it go much easier. Before I would hang onto every mean word and wallow in self pity. What a big waste of time! Being a drama queen is so overrated.

I wouldn’t say I’m super adventurous with a bucket list that includes bungee jumping, deep sea diving or skiing down a treacherous mountain, but I am more open to new experiences and taking more risks.

While I still fear failure, I’ve learned that failure doesn’t necessarily mean the world will end. You learn from the mistakes and try again, smarter this time.

My wise friend Cecile said in our online chat this morning that as our bodies age physically, our minds and spirits are enlightened by experiences of friendship, love, loss, hurt and disappointment. Relationships become more important than things.

We realize that life will never be perfect and that bad times come to everyone along with the good. We learn to be more accepting, appreciating the good things and letting go of the bad.

Now I want to experience more, reach out more, live with more love and creativity, let go of past hurts, buy less material possessions and make a difference. I also want to help others appreciate their special gifts.

I might not change the world but I can make a small difference and leave the world a bit brighter because I was here. Isn’t that what most of us hope for?

Gee, I sure am wise after 55 years, aren’t I?

Friday, December 5, 2014

Being a Multipotentialite

For years I thought I had a short attention span since I couldn't focus on just one interest area and I got easily bored if I had to do the same thing all the time.

I have always felt pulled in a million directions at once and tend to flit from one thing to another like a butterfly who has to sample all the different flowers in the garden

As a result, I often have many unfinished projects cluttering up the house and my brain feels very scattered. Having deadlines and priorities seems to help but I still tend jump around from project to project.

It's so refreshing and a relief to find the site Puttylike by Emilie Wapnick.

I just love the whole idea of being a multipotentialite, a person who has many passions and interests and doesn't want to settle for just one.  

Throughout my life, I have had various interests of creative writing, blogging, drawing and painting, playing flute, singing in a choir, acting and set design,desktop publishing, graphic/web design, photography and scrapbooking. 

I love the articles at Emilie's site that reassure me that I don't have ADD and that it's okay to be passionate and curious about many things. It's also okay to be introverted and spend lots of time alone creating and exploring as I often thought that was a flaw as well.

To know there are others who feel the same is even more reassuring. I'm not crazy, after all! I'm an introverted multipotentialite.

I especially like this particular post by Emilie about how to manage being a multipotentialite to our best advantage and make it work for us.


How about you? Are you a multipotenialite?

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Dinner Invitation

I am linking this to from-15-to-50-fiction the Fiction Challenge at The Moving Quill "From 15 to 50" and using Shailaja Vishwanath's photo for the prompt.

Dinner Invitation
19 words

That was the last time Milton would accept a dinner invitation without checking what was on the menu first.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Rainbows and Butterflies

I love Jonathan Lockwood Huie's daily quotes and inspirational posts. Today he writes that it’s important to look for the small miracles of daily life instead of always waiting for the big miracles which may or may not happen.

Each day we see small miracles all around if we open our eyes and minds to see them.

Here is a small miracle, a beautiful photo that my son Rory took of his walk in the woods with our dog, Loup during the snowfall yesterday. I think it’s so magical when the snow clings to the trees like this as if they fairies came by and dusted snow on each branch. So picturesque. Maybe I won’t be so in awe of the snow by March but right now it looks gorgeous on the trees as the first snowfall of the winter.

Here is another small miracle. I shared a wonderful post about writing by my good friend Shailaja that is definitely worth a read.

At that same moment in time, Shailaja said she received my snail mail card which traveled all the way from Canada to India. She said she was reading it at the same time as I shared her post and it made her day. 

Yes, small miracles are everywhere ready for you to appreciate them as they happen. 

Rainbows and butterflies are all around if you are open to them. 

Here is a poem I wrote and an inspirational poster I created about small miracles. 

Wednesday, November 12, 2014


I’ve always had a fascination for mannequins. I find them creepy but intriguing at the same time. They seem so life like but yet cold and distant from being human.
Mannequins come in different styles and looks. Some are very chic and elegant where some are downright tacky.

Whenever I see some I like to take photos of them.

I can almost hear them talking to me as they look at me in their bored, condescending manner. And why shouldn’t they be condescending? After all, they’re so perfect with their classic features and slim figures. Their hair and makeup are always perfect. And of course, their clothes always look good. No dirt or food stains on their outfits.

These mannequins I saw at the Rideau Centre were totally white with strong chiselled features like Greek and Roman statues.

These ones in Toronto had bald white heads like aliens. I didn't like them as much as the ones with actual hair and facial features.

This one in Montreal didn’t even have a head.

I almost expect them to start talking to me. If they did, what would they say or do?

I wrote this story as I pondered that very idea.

Here is the mannequin I picture as being Paul in the story.

“Hey Brenda!”

“What? Who said that?” Brenda looked around wondering who was talking.

“It’s me. Paul. Up here. ”

Brenda stared at the talking male mannequin on the platform. He was as handsome as a Greek god statue with strong chiselled features. And of course he was dressed to perfection in the latest fall fashions.

She stared wide-eyed at him. “How do you know my name?”

“I know everything about you. I stand here day after day observing and listening to you.”

“That’s creepy! Are you stalking me?” Brenda said, biting her nails the way she always did when she was nervous.

 “No, it’s not like that at all. I think you’re wonderful. Could you help me out, Brenda?”

“What do you mean?”

 “Help me get out of here.”

“Pardon me.”

“You heard me. I’m tired of standing here under these fluorescent lights day in and day out. I need some adventure.”

“Wouldn’t it be a bit obvious if I took you? The store would say I was shoplifting. You’re wearing their clothes.”

“Take the clothes off me then. I don’t care.”

“I can’t do that either. That would be indecent.”

“Oh, don’t worry about that. I’m not anatomically correct. And I don’t feel the cold either. I spend most of my time naked in a closet anyhow. Luckily Sadie, the wardrobe girl decided to use me for this fall display. That’s why I need to plan my escape before she shoves me back in that closet again with the other mannequins.”

I stood there and pondered my predicament.

“So, are you going to take me with you or not?” he finally asked.

“I’m sorry. I can’t.” I turned and walked away. For the rest of the day, I avoided that section of the store.

Later that night at home, just as I climbed into bed, I heard a whisper.

“Brenda. It’s me, Paul.”

I flicked on the light and grabbed my can of pepper spray that I kept on my bedside table for sleepovers that got out of hand. “How did you get here? I thought you couldn’t walk.”

“Funny about that. I’d never tried to walk before. Imagine my surprise when I found out I could.”

 “Get out, now!”

“I want to live with you, Brenda. I’m in love with you.”

“You’re crazy.”

 “I like you better than Sadie. She treats me like an object.”

“But you are an object. You’re a mannequin.”

 “It was foolish coming here,” Paul said, a sad expression on his face. “I thought you’d understand how I felt about you. I’ll go.” And with that he opened the door and left.

The next day Brenda arrived at work and saw that Paul’s spot was empty. Why did she feel so sad about him? What was wrong with her?

Sadie approached, an angry look on her face.

“Have you seen the mannequin? The boss is boiling mad that it’s missing and he’s blaming me.”

“No I haven’t seen Paul, er it,” Brenda lied. Sadie gave her a puzzled look and Brenda just shrugged.

Where could he have gone?

After work, Brenda walked along the sidewalk, her head down against the cold autumn wind.

“Brenda! Ahoy Matie!”

She turned towards the voice and couldn’t believe it. There was Paul and he wasn’t a mannequin anymore. He stood outside the Party Place dressed up in a pirate costume.

“You’re a man?” Brenda said in disbelief.

“That’s right. Isn’t it great?” he said. “I got a job at the Party Place since I’m so good at dressing up and standing still for long periods.”

“But how did you become a man?”

“I believed I could walk so I decided to try believing I was a man and it worked. Pretty cool, eh? I only have one thing left to do.”


“This.” He swept Brenda into his arms and kissed her. His warm lips were definitely human and not made of cold fibreglass.

“Now can I live with you?”

“We could try it out and see,” Brenda said, still in a daze from the kiss.

“I’m so happy,” Paul said. “And by the way, I’m a man in every way now, too.”

“Even better,” Brenda said.

Sunday, October 26, 2014

From Rags to Being True to You

I watched the most incredibly lame movie last night on Netflix called “Rags” with a twist on the Cinderella theme. This Canadian-made 2012 movie was filmed in Vancouver with New York as its setting. I couldn't help noticing that in the opening scene of NYC, they still showed the Twin Towers. You'd think they could at least use some modern footage. For a while I kept thinking the movie must have been made before 2001 until I saw them using modern Iphones and not those huge clunky portable phones of the 1990's.

This movie was a stinker, no doubt about it. It was really bad; the script, the acting and the music, but I watched it anyhow.

Like eating junk food, sometimes I’m in the mood for a fluffy teen movie where I don’t have to think too much. At least it had no calories!

The main character Charlie reminded me of Justin Bieber with his boyish looks, his goofy eagerness and singing style. GAG! *Makes a face* I’m not a Bieber fan, can you tell?

I had to rack my brain trying to find something good about the movie, (other than the father character was played by the Old Spice Guy, Isaaih Mustafa. Drool!) Those commercials are an absolute hoot. Just to sidetrack you, here is the link to one for a good laugh.

Hmmmmmmmm, *Daydreams with dreamy, goofy look on face*  

Now back to the main topic, Cathy. Where was I? *Throws cold water on face*

I would have to say the most redeeming feature of the movie "Rags" was the focus on being authentic and being true to yourself. Of course this theme has been overdone in movies to the point of being clich├ęd, especially in a teen movie like this one, but I still think it has value.

How many of us pretend to the world instead of showing our real selves? We pretend to like things we don’t like for fear of being scorned. We pretend to like people we don’t care for in order to be accepted as part of the cool crowd. We engage in activities we don’t enjoy or buy things we don’t even care about and go broke in the process, all to get approval from others.

As I age, I think I’m becoming more authentic and accepting of the real person I am. I’ve done that pretending routine and found it hard to keep up appearances. I didn’t like that person anyhow. She wasn’t real.

Even in middle age, I’m still on a journey of self discovery to discover the real authentic me. Sometimes it can be a painful process. Sometimes it’s exhilarating and wonderful.

How freeing it is when we can accept the whole messy package that makes us the person we are.

It’s easy to be blue
If you’re not being you,
All that pretending can take its toll
Being yourself should be your goal,
For being you is what you do best
Stay true to yourself and forget the rest!

Who knew such a lame movie could be the inspiration for a blog post, eh? I sure didn't!

© Cathy Graham, October 26, 2014

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

We Will Remember

Today a young reserve soldier, Cpl Nathan Cirillo, was shot and killed while guarding the War Memorial Monument in Ottawa, where I live. 

My heart goes out to his loved ones. I especially have a soft spot for reservists since I was once in the reserve myself.

This kind of thing doesn't happen in Canada, a peace-loving nation where we can walk freely without fear.

It is especially shocking to happen in Ottawa, a quiet government town. Even now, my husband's building is on lockdown and he doesn't know when he can leave. The gunmen are still wandering around and the whole downtown area is locked down. 

These kinds of things don't happen in our peaceful corner of the world. At least that's what I used to think. 

It just shows that it can happen anywhere at anytime. We are vulnerable and even more so in these scary times of extremist terrorists with a warped view of the world.

But mostly, I can't help thinking about that innocent young soldier losing his life guarding the memorial for fallen soldiers. Now he is also one of the fallen.

"At the going down of the sun and in the morning, 
We will remember him."

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Talk is Cheap but Listening is Gold

Talk, talk, talk, we’re good at that
Day in day out, we like to chat,
What a noisy world where everyone is talking
Some even talk on the phone while walking,

We talk and talk without stopping to think
We talk about everything but the kitchen sink,
But listening is a more important skill.
Just close your mouth and keep it still,

Do you actively listen or wait to reply?
Do you listen patiently, do you even try?
Because conversation is a two way street
Having someone listen is mighty sweet,

Having someone listen can make your day
Much more than anything you can say,
Talk is cheap but listening is gold
It’ll keep you company when you get old,

Instead of your mouth, why not open each ear?
You’ll be amazed by everything you hear,
Listening costs nothing and is completely free
Hey you out there? Are you listening to me?

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Size Matters

Today's topic for the weeklong writing festival at Write Tribe is to write about inequality for Blog Action Day.

We think we’re equal and all the same
But how you look is part of the game,
If you’re slim, no one bothers you
If you’re overweight, that isn’t true

You get charged more for an airplane seat
You get judged for everything you eat,
People make a face and look away
How dare you come and wreck our day!

How dare you come and invade our space!
You don’t deserve to be in this place,
Overweight people are stupid and lazy
Go away, you’re driving us crazy,

Worse than the shunning are the comments and jeers
Taunted and teased for years and years,
They retreat and hide to protect from hurt
They're so used to being treated like dirt,

Overweight people are not treated the same
Shunned and despised, they live in shame,
If you’d listen, they have stories to tell
They know that inequality is alive and well.

I am writing this inequality poem on the sixth day of the week-long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.
Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove. 

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Frugal is Fun!

For the fifth day of the Write Tribe Blogging challenge we are writing tip posts. 

I’m always looking for ways to save money in these tight times where a dollar doesn’t buy as much as it did before. I wouldn’t say I’m virtuous and perfect at it. Like watching my weight, I sometimes slip up in a moment of weakness.

Still, being frugal can become a way of life if you work at it and change your habits gradually.


Think before buying something. Impulse buys can be foolish. We’ve all done it where we buy something on sale just because it’s such a great deal and we never even use it. Do you really need the item or is it just going to add to the clutter? Take time to consider a purchase instead of buying it as soon as you see it. Often after thinking it through, you’ll decide you really don’t need it after all.

Don’t use the credit cards so much. It’s easy to lost track of expenses with a credit card and that results in a rude shock when the bill arrives. At those high interest rates, it can take forever to pay off the bill and end up costing so much more. Try using cash more as once it’s gone, it’s gone.

I have read about people allotting cash in envelopes for groceries, utilities etc but haven’t tried that yet. I am trying to use more cash though and it does help. Somehow you think twice about buying something when you know you only have a certain amount of cash to spend instead of a credit card.

Use the library. I can never say enough good things about the library for saving money. You can get books free of charge as well as CDs and DVDs. I love being able to order books online and they send it to our little country library. It’s like having a gigantic library to access. We are so lucky to have our library as we almost lost it to budget cuts years ago so I am very grateful.

Shop at thrift and good will shops. I enjoy perusing thrift shops to see what treasures I might find there. Sometimes I find nice clothes that are barely worn for a fraction of the price of new ones. Not everyone likes the idea of used clothes but I don’t mind if it’s going to save me money. I don’t like used shoes though. I draw the line on wearing someone else’s shoes. ICK!

Join online groups to sell or give away used items. I belong to a few online groups who sell or give away second hand items. This is especially good for those with small kids who outgrow clothes and other baby items so fast that they hardly wear anything out.

Eat more beans and less meat. Not only are beans healthier, they’re way cheaper than meat.  I try and make a few meatless meals a week. They also contain less calories and less fat which is good for the waistline, too.

Make more meals from scratch. Don’t rely on packaged convenience food so much. They are usually less nutritious, contain loads of sodium and sugar and cost a lot more.

Get produce in season and go to farmers’ markets Not only is the food fresher, it’s usually cheaper, too. Also you’ll feel good about supporting local farmers.

Grow your own garden. It’s so satisfying to grow your own garden of fresh vegetables. They taste better and are so much more economical.

Don’t eat out so often. Eating out can really blast your budget and should be reserved for special occasions as it can really add up. If you do eat out, don’t order drinks or dessert as they charge a lot for them and make the bill really add up fast. I tend to have water most of the time as I don’t like pop and am trying to drink less diet drinks.

Make your own coffee and carry it in a portable cup. I like making coffee at home with my Keurig in those K cups you fill yourself. Those pre-made disposable cups they sell in boxes are very tasty but cost an absolute fortune. Also they’re not that environmental as you can’t recycle them. That said, I do buy them on occasion if I see them on sale which isn’t that often.

I must say that when I am in town I do love my Starbucks. It is my one indulgence that might be seen as a little decadent. Oh well. I don’t drink or smoke so this is my guilty pleasure.

Get rid of satellite or cable TV. We just got rid of our satellite TV as it was costing us a fortune. Now we have an antenna that works great. We have less stations than before but we weren’t watching them much anyhow.  

I’m far from perfect in my quest to save money, but have managed to make some of these tips a habit so I’m getting there. I'm also learning to be content with less.

What tips do you have to save money? I’d love to hear your suggestions. 

I am writing this tips post on the fifth day of the week-long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.
Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove. 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Links I Love

(Image from The Graphics Fairy's site)

Today's topic for the Write Tribe's week long blogging challenge is to make a list of favourite links to share. My main challenge for this is that I like so many sites, it's hard to pick only a few. I narrowed it down by deciding on ones that inspire me and help me with my creative projects.

Contrary to popular belief, I don’t just spring out of bed all happy, confident and positive.  Some days I need lots of coffee and inspiration to get going for the day.

Every day I like to look at posts from inspirational and writing sites. The inspirational sites get me into a positive mindset for the day while the writing sites help inspire me, overcome procrastination and give me ideas.

Of course there is always the danger, I’ll just surf and not get that writing done. There are just too many interesting sites out there. Guess I’ll have to find a site about not procrastinating. I’m sure there is one. I’ll have to Google it....later.

Here are some links to a few newsletters that I subscribe to:

I just love the morning posters on Queen of Your Own Life’s Facebook Page done by Cindy and Kathy. Each image depicts a vintage photo of a woman and some piece of wisdom to start us off the day in a positive mindset. Their main focus is loving yourself, having gratitude and living a life of joy. Who can’t use more of that, right?

I found out about Karen Watson, the graphics fairy through Queen of Your Own Life. Karen posts the loveliest vintage images for free download. I just love the images as I am a big fan of vintage graphics. I like to use the images on Facebook or to make handmade cards. They brighten up my day and hopefully brighten others' days, too.

Jonathan Lockwood Huie’s quotes are always uplifting and thought-provoking. Even if I don’t use them to create a motivational poster, the quotes always give me something to think about.
Positive Writer’s Bryan Hutchison writes about the fears and doubts that plague writers and he offers suggestions on how to work through them to get that writing done. I appreciate his honesty and willingness to help other writers. Right now he is offering his book "Writer's Doubt" for free on Amazon in exchange for a review and then there will be a contest later on. Definitely worth checking out.

I am writing this post about links on the fourth day of the week-long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.
Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove. 

Monday, October 13, 2014

A Review of Picaboo

Day 3 of the blogging challenge at Write Tribe is to write a review so I have chose to write about Picaboo, an online photo book making company.

If you’re like me, you probably have loads of paper photos or digital photos taking up space in boxes or on your computer’s hard drive.

I decided to take on the job of being the family archivist and love to create books to capture the memories before they’re forgotten. For several years I have been making books, both conventional paper scrapbooks and digital.

I have tried many of the different photo book companies over the years such as Heritage Makers, Snapfish, Photobook Canada, MyPublisher, Blurb, Walmart and Picaboo.

I would have to say that my favourite is Picaboo, an American company.

Here is a photo book I made with about my cat, Kobie.

The main reason I like Picaboo is for the deals they offer, ease of use, quality of their books, fast turnaround and fast mail delivery.

Their software is online so you don’t have to download anything which is a much better method. The software program is fairly easy to use and they have video tutorials and helpful ideas. If you have any problems, they have an online chat helpline where you can communicate with an actual human being.

They have a great selection of book sizes and styles to choose from in varying prices. My favourite is the 9 x 11 Landscape Size as it is the most versatile for my needs and they tend to have lots of voucher sales for that size. They also have a choice between soft cover and hard cover.

There is a variety of different templates and backgrounds for different occasions such as vacations, birthdays, Christmas, Easter etc.

You can also choose templates varying the number of photos per page which is useful when you have lots of photos and only want to make a 20 page book. You also have the choice whether to add text to your photos.

There also have other products like cards, calendars, canvases, posters, photo panels and even phone cases.

They often have deals on vouchers which I snap up for future books. These vouchers have expiry dates which is a good thing for me being a notorious procrastinator.

Which reminds me, there’s a voucher due tomorrow. Good thing I’m editing my Thanksgiving photos today. 

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’d better get making my book!

I am writing this review on the third day of the week long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.
Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove. 

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Wise Sarah Says

Last night we were at a birthday party for Gini who just turned 50.

For a joke, some friends had dressed a mannequin to look like her and called it Sarah, after Sarah in the Bible.

There is a Norwegian legend that when a woman turns 50, she becomes a wise Sarah with experience, wisdom and insight like the biblical Sarah.

It’s true that by the time we’ve reached 50, we’ve learned a lot about life and ourselves. Of course, we still mess up and still get stuck in ways of being that aren’t the best.

With the wisdom of experience, we’ve learned to forgive, let go, grow, move on and appreciate what’s important.

Today’s blogging topic from Write Tribe’s blogging challenge is to ask a question. I decided on this one.

If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself one thing, what would you tell?

I would like to give advice from Wise Sarah to my younger self.

Wise Sarah says:
  • Don’t worry so much about doing it right. It’s okay to make mistakes. That’s how you learn and grow. Even if you're scared, give it a try.
  • Love yourself more and don’t be so hard on yourself. You are amazing, flaws and all!
  • See life as a big adventure instead of an endurance test.
  • Not everyone will like you and you won’t like everyone. Just like life being unfair, that’s just the way it is. Don’t be a people pleaser as some people aren’t worth the effort.
  • Stop fretting about past mistakes or worrying about looking foolish in the future. Most people are too worried about themselves to even notice.
  • Stop being so passive and waiting for life to happen to you. Stop acting like your life is a movie you’re watching. You’re starring in the movie, you’re not in the audience. Start playing a more active role. You can make things happen by your actions and choices. You may not always be able to control what happens, but how you react is up to you.
  • Don’t let people use you for a doormat. You deserve respect. Avoid toxic people and establish boundaries with those who judge you or try to tear you down.
  • Relax. Laugh. Love. Forgive.
  • Let go of grudges, hurt and hate.
  • Have more fun and don’t take everything so seriously, especially yourself.
  • Realize that it all goes very quickly so be in the moment as that’s all there is.
  • Life is short and precious with an unknown expiry date. Enjoy it.

I am writing this question on the second day of the week long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.

Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove.