Throughout my life I’ve had moments of great weakness where I gave up too soon after a failure or I accepted someone else’s negative definition of me as the truth. I’m not proud of those moments but will admit to them and hope that I’ve learned and grown since then.
I'd like to share my wisdom of age and experience with young people like my sons in the hopes that they will discover their inner resilience earlier than I did. I think my inner strength or resilience was there all along but often I didn't trust it enough to tap into it.
Just like a piece of sandstone that has undergone intense pressure and heat to become a hard igneous rock, I would like to think I’m stronger now after a lifetime of hurts and disappointments.
Of course I’m far from perfect and still go through my weak moments but hopefully I’m more resilient now than when I was younger. I still get hurt but am able to weather it better than when I was younger and more inexperienced, convinced the world was ending if I failed or someone was mean to me. Now I know I will get through it and that I’m a good person with lots to offer, worthy of self love and respect.
To me Reslience is:
- Believing in yourself during
- Trusting your inner wisdom to
- Not being swayed or manipulated
by others’ opinions and not taking what they say so personally. Their opinion of
you is not a reflection of you, it’s a reflection of them.
- Realizing you aren’t perfect and
will fail sometimes. Everyone has failures, even those who give the illusion of perfection.
- Picking yourself up after
failure and starting again, smarter and stronger this time.
- Realizing that failure and disappointment are tough to go through but they also makes you grow and that makes you that much more resilient.
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