Wise Sarah Says


Last night we were at a birthday party for Gini who just turned 50.

For a joke, some friends had dressed a mannequin to look like her and called it Sarah, after Sarah in the Bible.

There is a Norwegian legend that when a woman turns 50, she becomes a wise Sarah with experience, wisdom and insight like the biblical Sarah.

It’s true that by the time we’ve reached 50, we’ve learned a lot about life and ourselves. Of course, we still mess up and still get stuck in ways of being that aren’t the best.

With the wisdom of experience, we’ve learned to forgive, let go, grow, move on and appreciate what’s important.

Today’s blogging topic from Write Tribe’s blogging challenge is to ask a question. I decided on this one.

If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself one thing, what would you tell?

I would like to give advice from Wise Sarah to my younger self.
Wise Sarah says:
  • Don’t worry so much about doing it right. It’s okay to make mistakes. That’s how you learn and grow. Even if you're scared, give it a try.
  • Love yourself more and don’t be so hard on yourself. You are amazing, flaws and all!
  • See life as a big adventure instead of an endurance test.
  • Not everyone will like you and you won’t like everyone. Just like life being unfair, that’s just the way it is. Don’t be a people pleaser as some people aren’t worth the effort.
  • Stop fretting about past mistakes or worrying about looking foolish in the future. Most people are too worried about themselves to even notice.
  • Stop being so passive and waiting for life to happen to you. Stop acting like your life is a movie you’re watching. You’re starring in the movie, you’re not in the audience. Start playing a more active role. You can make things happen by your actions and choices. You may not always be able to control what happens, but how you react is up to you.
  • Don’t let people use you for a doormat. You deserve respect. Avoid toxic people and establish boundaries with those who judge you or try to tear you down.
  • Relax. Laugh. Love. Forgive.
  • Let go of grudges, hurt and hate.
  • Have more fun and don’t take everything so seriously, especially yourself.
  • Realize that it all goes very quickly so be in the moment as that’s all there is.
  • Life is short and precious with an unknown expiry date. Enjoy it.

I am writing this question on the second day of the week long Write Tribe Blogging Festival.

Based on Darren Rowes, Seven Days to Rediscovering Your Blogging Groove. 

http://www.problogger.net/archives/2007/07/16/7-days-to-rediscovering-your-blogging-groove/




Comments

  1. UnknownOctober 12, 2014 at 8:20 AM

    Excellent advice for any age! Awesome!

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:10 AM

      Thanks, Kathy. Good things to aim for anyhow. I'm sure not perfect at all of them.

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  2. Shilpa GargOctober 12, 2014 at 9:02 AM

    I liked the wisdom shared by the wise Sarah. Interesting custom too :)

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:10 AM

      That Sarah is very wise. She could teach me a lot.

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  3. Vidya SuryOctober 12, 2014 at 9:44 AM

    Sarah's advice is spot on, Cat! Love the post!

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:11 AM

      Thanks, Vidya. Good things to work on though I'm sure not perfect at all of them.

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  4. ObsessivemomOctober 12, 2014 at 9:51 AM

    Sarah is indeed wise. Age provides such profound perspective.

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:11 AM

      It does for sure, Tulika. I often wish I could go back to my youth and do it over again with the wisdom of age.

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  5. Beloo MehraOctober 12, 2014 at 9:58 AM

    Sarah is a wise lady, for sure :) I am happy because in less than 2 years I too will be turning 50, so there is hope for me :)

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  6. Shailaja VOctober 12, 2014 at 10:24 AM

    I love, love, love Sarah's wisdom! Cat, you queen, you! My favourite is to avoid toxic people. Such a wealth of learning there! Sharing this post, Cat :)

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:13 AM

      Yes, toxic people aren't worth the bother, are they? Thanks for sharing and appreciating my post.

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  7. Shilpa GupteOctober 12, 2014 at 10:38 AM

    Each and every lesson in the post is priceless, especially, 8,9, 10! Lessons learnt and feeling enlightened! Thanks a lot, Cat!

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:13 AM

      Thanks, Shilpa. Glad you liked my life's lessons. I still need to work on so many of them and am not perfect, that's for sure.

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  8. VinodiniOctober 12, 2014 at 10:40 AM

    Wow! What an amazing post! Loved every single point you've stated here. Indeed, life's about living it fully rather than worrying about being judged.

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:14 AM

      Whenever I can let go of the worry about what others think, I always feel so much freer. Thanks, Vinodini!

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  9. AnonymousOctober 12, 2014 at 11:05 AM

    wow! I like wise Sarah's advice!

    My own advice - "Don't take life so seriously; nothing is permanent, especially sadness"

    My favorite lines -
    "Not everyone will like you and you won’t like everyone. Just like life being unfair, that’s just the way it is. Don’t be a people pleaser as some people aren’t worth the effort."

    and

    "Relax. Laugh. Love. Forgive."

    and

    "Life is short and precious with an unknown expiry date. Enjoy it."




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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:15 AM

      Glad you liked it, pixie. I agree with what you said about sadness, too. We pass through hard phases but usually it's only temporary and then changes. Nothing is permanent as you said.

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  10. UnknownOctober 12, 2014 at 12:35 PM

    Wise Sarah is wise. And so is Wise Cathy! :)

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  11. UnknownOctober 12, 2014 at 11:54 PM

    Cathy thats an amazing advice. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:16 AM

      Thanks for the encouragement, Cynthia. Much appreciated.

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  12. RajlakshmiOctober 13, 2014 at 2:57 AM

    so many thoughful advices :)
    /Relax. Laugh. Love. Forgive// I would say this too :D

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    1. UnknownOctober 13, 2014 at 4:17 AM

      Thanks Rajlakshimi. Yes, we need to enjoy life more, don't we?

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  13. elly stornebrinkOctober 13, 2014 at 8:26 PM

    A wise list and a wise post with a wise ceremony Cathy, that means you too are wise! ;) I wish they had that for my 50th! ;) <3

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    1. UnknownOctober 14, 2014 at 4:16 AM

      Me, too, Elly. I like that Wise Sarah idea. Good to be reminded that we have gained a lot of wisdom and life experience by the time we reach 50. We tend to forget that.

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  14. elly stornebrinkOctober 13, 2014 at 8:27 PM

    Oh, and I forgot to mention, my wiser self would say along the lines of, "Be kind and gentle with yourself." and maybe something about nurturing my inner child more. :) <3

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    1. UnknownOctober 14, 2014 at 4:17 AM

      Oh yes, that inner child needs to be nurtured for sure. Good one.

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